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"It takes courage to live through suffering and it takes honesty to observe it,"

                 CS Lewis 



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Here are some warning signs/red flags if you are questioning if you are in a destructive relationship: Do you notice any of these behaviors and consistent destructive patterns in your relationship?

  • Gaslighting( making you question reality and blaming own faults onto you making you doubtful, feeling powerless and confused)

  • Control issues and behaviors(abusing you physically, emotionally, verbally & financially) giving you only an "allowance", breaking things, or throwing objects.

  • Emotional withdrawal

  • Infidelity/betrayal

  • Contempt/resentfulness

  • Your partner belittles you, puts you down, and demeans you. Tells you you are worthless, lazy and have no value.Hw

  • Abandonment

  • Isolates you and keeps you away from friends or gets jealous when you are with friends

  • Does not support your dreams or goals and tells you you are better off not achieving them


If any of these signals concern you or seem to be patterns in your relationship, we recommend reading The Emotionally Destructive Marriage by Leslie Vernick which is also on our Postpartum Mamas Resource Book List. 

If you are having harmful or suicidal thoughts, please call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-8255 or 911 for immediate help. 


If you need domestic violence resources please call the Domestic Violence Hotline at 1900-799-7233 or 911 immediately. 

We also encourage any mothers experiencing or questioning if they are in a destructive or unsafe relationship such as domestic violence, or abuse to share their experiences in our safe & confidential support groups. If you need an additional individual coaching resource, Paige Patterson has coached many women and mothers individually with a variety of personal & relationship concerns within Postpartum Mamas and beyond. For a safe space to share immediately and gain positive support and help, feel free to contact our Life Coach Paige Patterson (Board of Directors of Postpartum Mamas) for a free 30 min support call at (253) 961-5639 to help you make your positive next steps immediately. The first step in making positive and healthy changes is opening up in a safe support forum. Paige is working towards her Life Coaching Certification from the Certified Coach Life Institute and has individually coached and greatly improved the mental health of many woman and mothers with a variety of personal and relationship concerns within Postpartum Mamas and beyond and we are very grateful for her coaching expertise to help others. For clinical therapist & licensed counselor options and resources please see our Resources Tab. We value your feedback so that we can continue to encourage and foster positive growth and healthy connections.

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